What is the "important bubble" ? By definition, it's a protected, exempt, or unique area. My advice today: You need to find your child's bubble.
This is an area or space that they feel protected, most comfortable, at peace. Obviously, it will change throughout their lifetime. For my son while he was younger, it was his bedroom with all his leggos, and he had LOTS AND LOTS. A secluded room, quiet, familiar, clean ( not cluttered with extra things)...no unfamiliar smells. (Something as simple as air freshener can set off a reaction for an autistic child) For someone with sensory integration issues, a room can't look busy with lots of prints on the curtains, walls, bedspread. Colors matter, you may want to do some research. We used a shelf system and tubs with lids to keep everything organized and looking neat. I found out early on that he had no place of peace in his room if it was messy. The stress of clutter was overwhelming for him. Yes, you need to teach them to clean up their own mess, however, you also need to find their bubble. Taking the few extra minutes to help my son clean his floor and put things into place, created an area that he could go and spend time in peace. Also note, my son's bubble was and still is only possible when I am at home, physically seen. Your child's bubble is probably not going to be anywhere else but home while you are there.
Use the bubble! Take a breather. If you have a child like this, stressful days run into weeks, months, and then years. Your life in chaos pretty much 24/7365. SO, please, if your child is in a happy place for 5-30 minutes, or even 1 or 2 hours, use the bubble time to purposely relax. Drink a cup of tea, feed your mind, read a book, talk to a friend of the phone, write in a journal, build up your spirit. Your dishes, laundry, and cleaning do not build yourself up or rejuvenate you. This is a long tedious journey, my friend. When you find the bubble, use it well, you will need it. Trust me, you will.
Lynne
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